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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Being Single on Valentine's Day

Valentines Day is approaching and for those who are single at this time or going through a break up it can be a very lonely time of year.

Red boxes of candy, flowers and teddy bears seem to stalk your every step.

Single on Valentine's Day
You are never more aware of the fact that you are alone.

Instead of being focused on this do something special for yourself because as the saying goes: You first have to love yourself before you can love anybody else!

Try one of these ideas this year for Valentines Day!

1. Treat yourself to a full body massage at a local spa!

2. Have friends over for a romantic comedy movie night with your favorite drinks and snacks!

3. Make a list of your strongest traits and make a list of the traits you want in a loved one and make a resolution to yourself about the kind of partner you want in your life.

4. Indulge in a makeover and a few new items for your wardrobe and go out! There is no need to sit at home alone! Go out feeling confident about your new look.

5. Take time to get closure on past relationships starting at the beginning. Write a short note to your past loves, even that grade school sweetheart that used to poke you in the back during class! You do not have to send them, just do it for yourself you may find patterns in the partners you have chosen and be able to make better choices in the future!

6. If you really do love those heart shaped boxes of candy, teddy bears with tee shirts that say cute little things on them and all that Valentines jazz then by all means buy some for yourself! There is no shame in getting yourself something that says, “I love you”! I love to hit the shops right after the holiday has passed to get the best deals and I get twice as much as my friends who waited for someone to buy it for them! Besides I know I prefer the cream filled chocolates!

7. Make yourself a mixed CD of your favorite songs particularly songs not about love and romance! A good dance mix or fun lively music is best to lift your mood.

8. Join a fruit, book or one of many “of the month clubs”. When you receive your monthly goodies you can have a reminder of where you were at in your life when you purchased it. This is a good way to affirm positive changes in your life when you are no longer single or to remind yourself that no one particular month is dedicated to love and romance but every month, every moment is a moment to appreciate and love yourself!

9. Write a list of the GOOD things about being SINGLE! There are many positives to being on your own from being able to decorate anyway you choose, to being able to go out as late as you want with friends, to not having to worry if you look perfect all the time! Sure some of these things may be a stretch but it does help to showcase the positives no matter how silly they may be! You may give yourself a few good laughs writing the list!

10. Remember it is only ONE day of the year! You are no less important because you do not have a special someone on this one day! As soon as the candy and stuffed bears are removed from the shelves the Easter baskets and colored grass will replace it and Valentines Day will be nothing more than a faded memory! Most all of the hooplah around Valentines Day is nothing more than a marketing ploy to boost sales for the flower markets and candy sales anyway! Laugh about it – laughter is always the best medicine!

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3 comments:

  1. When I first got divorced I did this....A week before Valentines Day, me and 4 other single/divorced friends pulled names and we were to be that person's valentine. For the entire week of Vday we did special things such as leaving affirmations on the car window, or putting a muffin basket on the doorstep and ringing the bell. All week we spoiled each other. On Vday we had a pajama party and exchanged gifts, painted each others nails, watched funny movies and also empowering ones...It was THE BEST Vday I ever had.

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  2. Thank you for sharing this really awesome story!
    See this is exactly the best type of thing to do and like you said it is the best vday you have ever had! What fun! I would LOVE a muffin basket on my doorstep LOL

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  3. Thank you for sharing this with me - there are many things I want to talk with you about - Maureen

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