The Difference Between Cats and Dogs....How Men and Women Love

Are men and woman really all that different in the way they love? For years we have been told yes, in fact they are. Science, spirituality, sociology, psychology, etc., have always said so. Why should we think any differently? Every person on this earth is different. We have sun signs, zodiac charts, nature, nurture, chemistry, sexual orientation, gender, race, socioeconomic background, and many other elements that make up who we are, but when you get right down to it, men and women love in the same way! Okay before I get into that, there are many different ways in which people can show love and I have referenced this in a past article. Some of the ways people show love can be via gifts, words, non verbal communication, doing things for the one they love, etc and so on. I am not going to get back into all of that in this article, however when someone loves you pure and simple male versus female, there are some base elements which will always be the same. 

Desire, Lust, Demonstrative Behaviors, Calling, Texting, Providing, Nurturing, Compassion, Understanding, Listening, Talking, Expression of Goals, Dreams, Plans, just to name a very few!

For some reason, however, many people do not read the tale tale signs that a person simply does not love them! Either we do not want to see it (denial), or we make excuses for them (codependency), or we say we love them unconditionally (bullshit), or whatever .... point is if you love someone take a look at what you are providing, giving, doing for them. Ask yourself if you are loving within reason. If you are and they are not doing the same for you, they don’t love you! 

Now notice I said within reason!!! This is where many people can trip themselves up! A person is entitled to their own identity, friends, plans, career, family, etc. If you are asking a person not stop visiting their family and they wish to, that is not okay. Clearly there are issues that make it so that you really need to take stock in if the two of you should be together. Same goes with friends, career goals, and many other topics too numerous to mention! 

Are you asking the one you love to call you every single day? Some people expect contact via text, email, or phone on the hour! This is not reasonable! If you are being obsessive, controlling, or compulsive, in your relationship chances are you should not even be in a relationship and need to seek help! 

Now assuming most of my readers are mentally stable, I put before you a very basic means in which to determine if a man or woman for that matter is in love with you or not, or at least if there is potential for them TO fall in love with you. 

1. He / She can’t make it to a schedule event, a date you had planned, or something you two agreed to do together, even if it was as simple as movie night at one of your homes. He or She CALLS to tell you they can’t make it! It comes down to simple basic respect! I don’t care if they lack respect for themselves and therefore they could not find it in their tiny little shriveled heart to pick up the phone, that’s enabling their unacceptable behavior! They are assuming you would not have plans you could otherwise do and that you are sitting on pins and needles waiting for them to show up. They have no respect for you or your time! Dump them! They want a second chance? Thats up to you, I mean sometimes sure things happen, maybe there was an actual emergency or something but I’m not referring to that and by no means do you need to make excuses for their bad behavior! If they can’t find the time to alert you to the fact they can’t make it then they are not thinking of you or considering you enough to be in your life. Period! 

2. Their plans with you are always loose and on the fly. So he or she never seems to want to schedule anything with you to a set date and time right? Well right there you see how important you are. Now look, I’m all for setting up the potential casual meet up now and then, as life is not always predictable and your not a mind reader. You don’t even know every moment of every day if YOU will be able to swing a stop off at your favorite local club or coffee shop. So now and then a “hey if your in the area do you want to get a coffee” is fine! But if all your “plans” are non-plans and your both winging it in the so called relationship - its  NOT a relationship! I would not tolerate this of a friend and surely not someone that I think is in love with me! When someone loves you they want to do things with you, they want assurances that you and they will both have time, every moment together is special even if a quick lunch at a place mid way between your offices! Nothing is unimportant and each time you see each other you want to make sure that it works out if possible. The guy or girl who simply never is able to commit to a date surely is not able to commit to you! 

3. They only contact you when they are out with friends, at the bar, late at night, or when other plans fall through. Dear reader, if this is happening to you - you are a booty call! Wake up! Not only are they not in love with you, chances are they don’t really even LIKE you as a person! No one who likes you as a person, has any level of respect for you, or sees any potential in a future with you would treat you this way! DUMP THEM! 

4. They keep going back to their ex. Alright this one is not as cut and dry as other areas,  sometimes finances are involved, sometimes its “for the children”, whatever the reason its pretty simple to understand that this person is not where they need to be in their life in order to be with you. Value yourself, heck for that matter value THEM and where they are in their life path! If you love THEM then perhaps you should love them enough to help them wise up and say “look I care about you but you need time to figure out your path before we can be together” sometimes love is letting go and while we are questioning if someone loves US we need to also question if we REALLY love them! Love is a crazy thing and its sad that timing is not always aligned with someone we want to be with but this is no way to begin a lasting, healthy, love. 

Now sometimes you are simply being fed a line of BS. Yup thats right - its NOT always about the kids, its not always about the finances, sometimes they are not going to leave the marriage or the ex EVER but see a really good thing in having the both of you in their lives! The fact is this is not a relationship I would wish on anyone - as they are extremely taxing on the heart and spirit. They are tricky to manage and really you never feel confident in the future. Now if you find yourself in this place, and you don’t know if they love you or not, try to notice a few tale tale signs: 

Does he or she always bring up negative things about their ex/live in/spouse etc.

I mean sure if you and the one you love have communication things will come up but do they almost always make a point of trying to portray this other person as a horrid? Do they bring them up often enough so that you really truly think you know the other person? Do you find yourself focusing often on how badly the one you love is treated by this person? Do you feel sorry that they are “stuck” with them? Can you come up with valid excuses why they “have” to stay in this other relationship? Yes? Well thats bad because its not your job to make the excuses or “reasons” up! If you can come up with the reasons then its likely you have been brain washed into believing it! If we hear a story so many times we eventually end up believing it and repeating it! If you find yourself doing this you better get out of that relationship! 

Does the one you love intermittently “break things off” with you only to change their mind just about the time you THINK that MAYBE you can move on and let go? This is very typical in a controlling relationship! The skilled cheater will often do this very thing just to make you feel pain and give you the feeling of what it would be like to lose them just so they can make you happy again! Its common for the person to do this right after or before an argument is about to ensue! Its called behavior control! If they can scare you then maybe you will be on better behavior and not challenge them in the future! Maybe you have been too mopey around them or when talking to them and they want their happy person back! After all they are already in one unhappy relationship - they expect happiness from you! Sometimes they will even say that they have thought about things and want to give their relationship with the other person a final try. This keeps you waiting in the wings because after all you have heard you are certain it won’t work and you will be there, waiting for them when they come back to you! All of the above, among other, many other, things are signs to wake up and get out of the relationship! 

5. Do they disappear when you are sick? If you are not feeling well are they there with soup and a warm blanket? No? Why not? You would be for them right? Oh they would not let you in the door? They don’t like you seeing them that way? Well if your going to get married and grow old together surely at some point you will see them sick won’t you? Oh they are germaphobs? Really? Do they go out in the world for a job? Do they not work around sick people they are not even aware of? Again, if you get married and grow old together and you get a serious illness where will they go?  A person who loves you will be there for you - remember “for better or for worse” if they are not living up to what your vows would be why are you with them now? Take stock in how you are treated before you go down an isle - before you even dream about it! It is sad how many women AND men, think that the person they love walks on water and they dream daily about getting married to them when in fact in the dating stage of the relationship they are not even living up to the most basic parts of a commitment! This also goes along with when a family member takes ill! Do they go to the family home with you? Do they go to the hospital with you? Oh their schedule is too busy, or they get antsy in a hospital. Heck I do too, as a natural empath it can be taxing to go into a place where so many people are hurting and ill but I would do it for someone I love! No more excuses! If someone loves you they will do for you what you need and support you and those you love as well. They will not only do it they will WANT to do it! 

6. Separate Vacations - each of you deserve to do things with friends, go places apart. When you or the other person go on vacation do they check out from the relationship? Now I don’t expect anyone to check in with you every hour of the day that is crazy but one call a day, at night perhaps when they are back in their hotel room. A random text with some photo of something cool they saw with a “I miss you” or “wish you were here too” now that is sweet and shows they have you in mind while they are off having fun with friends! If you have not heard hide or hair from them in two days and your wondering if they are dead or alive then this is a sign that your relationship is not made of what it should be! Now I know, from years of doing readings professionally that there are some types of very self involved people, those who are so “in the moment” that they simply do not think of every little thing, but your not a little thing are you? A text or a call per day is warranted and you are by no means “keeping tabs” on them to expect this! Now if you have only been dating a week it may be too soon to expect this much communication but if you have been together more than a month you should! Every situation IS different and I want you to keep in mind these are merely guidelines not gospel but pretty damn close to gospel so don’t allow too much wiggle room on anything! 

There are many more warning signs but these would be the top few. While no two people are the same, nor have the exact same situation, social skills, upbringing or life experiences etc and so on, we can see a common trend when we are not getting what we want, need, or deserve from the person we love. The golden rule, do unto others should always be applied and you should continually ask yourself if both of you are living up to it or not! Now some of us can be overly doting, smothering, clingy, and needy. Sometimes WE are the person at fault for pushing someone away! However, if you consider yourself a fairly balanced and reasonable person, have not been blowing up their phone with texts, and have given them ample space to be themselves, and you still are not getting the basic respect and love you deserve you must, MUST, seriously ask yourself if you are being loved. The easiest way to know this is if you FEEL loved! The best way to determine this is by asking yourself mostly if you feel loved when you and the other person are NOT together! Its easy to feel “loved” in the throws of passion, when he or she are being satisfied by you, when they are sitting next to you sipping hot cocoa cuddled up watching a movie for the first time in months, etc. That soaring feeling of raw chemistry and emotion can totally lie to us! Be careful and be warned that the best time to ask yourself “does he/she love me?” is when you are not together based on if you FEEL loved! 

Keep in mind there are situations and circumstances that can overshadow the above however they are the baseline general rule of thumb to follow. If you feel you have circumstances outside of the norm you can always get a psychic reading, but it is my hopes to save you some money on them by referencing the above. Men and women do not love differently - at least not any differently than each persons character, personality, upbringing, etc and so on allow. In a nutshell men love as deeply and as blindly as women. Women love as passionately and sexually as men. Men love as emotionally and sensitively as women. When someone is IN LOVE they love with their heart, trying to put the other person’s needs first, caring for them, standing up for them and providing for them. They take time and make time for them. They try to do special things for them be that through words, actions, behaviors or whatever. Each person loves in their own way yes, some through gifts and travel, others through sweet sentimental words, some by preparing a wonderful dinner and putting rose petals on the bed. Not every person will EXPRESS their love in the same way but everyone will at least TRY something, if they are in love! 

With love, 

Azzrian Visions

Holiday Special

For all those who subscribe to my newsletter and my blog readers....
Half off ALL services through the end of December, 2011
As some of you know, I do post specials on facebook and twitter but for those of you who follow my blog and subscribe to my emails you are getting an extended amount of time to use this very special discount!
Be sure to subscribe, follow me, join my facebook, and check here often for specials for the new year!

My email subscribers also know that some specials are only offered to them! You can unsubscribe at any time!
As for now, and until years end, any and all services are half price and that even includes the monthly unlimited reading service and past life readings!

This is not open for pre-purchase to be used in the new year, however you are not limited on how many half price services you can get before years end!
In order to get the discounted fee you can either email me for an invoice or you can go directly to paypal and send payment be sure when you reduce the fee by half that you round down (to your favor) rather than up! Payment can be sent via paypal to my email address azzrian@cox.net
With love and blessings,
Azzrian Visions
Your Spiritual Advocate!

Creative and Romantic Gift Ideas for the Holidays

No matter how you celebrate the holidays, no matter what your faith, offer something to your loved ones that will truly be remembered:

Create a Scrapbook of precious keepsakes from your time together. Some goodies you can incorporate into your scrapbook include:

Photos of special moments together, Movie ticket stubs, concert tickets, A ribbon from your hair, A cut out of the box top of chocolates he gave to you, For the men, a cut out from a magazine of her favorite perfume that you love, A page of special dates you have shared together, A love letter, A lock of your hair, A list of your all time favorite moments together, Be imaginative and creative and have fun! Include things that will make your loved one laugh and smile and things that melt their heart! 

Jewelry

Yes its common, but stands the test of time. Especially for the lady in your life men. A lot of ladies will say they don’t need flashy jewelry to be happy but I have never seen a woman cry over getting something shiny and sparkly for the holidays! Its in our genes and we can’t honestly deny the desire to slide a new ring on our finger, or the feel of that chain around our neck, just be sure you offer to place it there! Before buying jewelry however, especially for the men, take note of if your loved one tends to wear silver, or gold, and if her style is more bohemian or flashy. You want to be sure you have her style down and if all else fails get something with both silver and gold in it that is basic. Ladies, don’t forget many men also enjoy a little pizazz! 

Gift Baskets

Sure anyone can pick out an item and wrap it in a box with a pretty bow but only you know your loved one well enough to know exactly the kind of items to put in their custom made gift basket! Give baskets can be creative, fun, whimsical, romantic, or just plain zany! If your loved one is a huge comic book fan then make them a comic book gift basket with some rare old books and a few new ones that may inspire adding to their collection. Got a sci fi fan in your life? A few DVD’s of classic Sci Fi movies along with a few new ones and a couple Sci Fi figurines would make their day! Does your lady love gourmet coffee? Give her a variety of coffees along with a custom made coffee mug but don’t forget the biscotti and chocolate covered espresso beans! Really anything your loved one is into can be incorporated into a fabulous gift basket! This lets your loved one know that you took the time to really consider THEM when picking out their gift! 

A Sweater

Yup I know it seems almost TOO simple, TOO basic, but if you live in a cold climate nothing is better than the feel of a quality sweater against one’s skin when its cold outside! Every time there is a rush of cold air they will think of you and thank you for giving them something so cozy and love should make one feel cozy and warm! Of course you want a sweater that is made well and will stand the test of time, just like your love. Try to stay away from busy patterns and outlandish colors unless of course that is what your loved one is into. Neutral tones, and solid patterns usually will be worn more often and match more of their other clothing. If sweaters are not your style consider the same idea with cozy pajamas or a very thick comforting robe! Snuggies are great for your nephew or college aged student, but your loved one deserves something a bit more lavish! 

A DVD of the first movie you saw together or a CD that has the first song you danced to as a couple on it. 

You can of course add more to this idea if you want to make it even more special but you would need to be a little creative. Attach a handwritten letter to your loved one on nice paper telling them all the thoughts and emotions that were going on inside of you on that date, or at that time! Tell them how nervous you were, or how you could not even keep your mind on the movie, or how you thought it cute when he slyly put his arm behind you at the theatre, or how stunning she looked on the dance floor. Whatever comes to mind just say it - as long as it is from the heart! 

A Love Letter

What ever happened to the art of writing? A handwritten letter from you to your loved one is a gift that simply can’t be beat anytime of the year! With cell phones and computers written communication has become a thing of the past but in almost every classic romance it is the love letter that is a cherished item, an item one keeps forever. 

You can write about a specific time spent together, a vacation you took, something you want to experience yet with him or her, write about what makes them so wonderful to you, you can write about all the things you want to give them or do for them in life, you can write about their beauty, the possibilities are endless. I find one of the main reasons people do not write more love letters is because they just don’t know where to begin. So pick a topic, that will help you figure out what to put on paper and remember there are no rules, you can say whatever is in your heart. 

A Photo Blanket

Many online and retail stores offer speciality items in their photography section. Simply do a google search of Personalized Photo Blanket to find sources. A blanket will keep your loved one warm all season long but also remind them of the special person who gifted it to them! The photo you choose for the blanket can be one of the two of you, your family, your loved one with their children or pet, or you can make a custom collage of things special to that person. Maybe they love a special orchard you had your first picnic at or maybe they love super heros, you could put a picture of Captain America on it with a message that they are YOUR super hero! Be creative and consider your loved one and have something special made just for them! 

A Top 10 List of what you love about him or her! 

There is nothing sweeter than reminding your loved one what it is you love about them! In my business clients ask this question so often “what does he / she love about me?” We humans need to know what makes our loved one’s heart melt! We want to know what traits we have that make them care for us because we not only need that ego boost but even more so because we want to continue those characteristics on for them! Let your loved one know what you love most about them for the holidays! 

Love Coupon Book

Sure, you can purchase one but they are usually so corny or have things in them we would either never do or do not have things in them we wish they did! Get crafty this holiday season! You can do it on the computer or by hand and if you are not artistically talented don’t worry about that. I gave one to my husband once that looked like a 5 year old created it as I am far from crafty but it is not the look that matters, rather what you put into it! Your loved one will be thrilled to get a custom made coupon book just for them made just by you! Some ideas you can incorporate, include:

Massage, Breakfast in Bed, For the men, ladies, you can wash his car for him in your bikini, For the ladies, men, you can draw her a bubble bath and warm her favorite pajamas for her in the dryer and lay them out for her, a warm towel is an extra little goodie, Offer to do house chores that are not normally your responsibility, A romantic candle lit dinner for two at home, Offer to watch a chick flick or man show with your loved one, Sexual favors are always a plus in these coupon books too! Again use your imagination, show your loved one that you know what they want most by giving them coupons for it! 

Boudoir Photos! 

This one speaks for itself and men, don’t think that this is just something the ladies do for you! Men can also get very seductive photos taken of themselves for the woman in their life! Men can dress up for their lady in a fireman’s outfit, as an officer, whatever your woman desires, or go natural standing by your car, motorcycle, or with your baseball bat, any woman who loves you will love this gift! Ladies, we know what men like, and don’t be shy about flaunting what you got! You too can play dress up in a naughty milk maid outfit, as a nurse, or you can go natural as well. Sexy photos need not be slutty or overly provocative, and can be done with great taste! Make sure you check out the photographer before setting your appointment of course! 

What are some of your romantic gift ideas? Feel free to leave comments below to inspire others and show us your great ideas! 

Love, 

Azzrian

The Art of Venting ... It's a Process!

As a spiritual advisor often people think I sit around in a pile of rose petals chanting and offering words of love and wisdom. Oh how I wish. Everyone, even the “spiritually enlightened” have the need to vent and spew their negative thoughts. To do is cleansing and releases the toxicity from our energy. Sure no one likes to be on the other end of the verbal out-lash but as long as our venting is done in a manner which is not harmful toward others it can be “okay”. 

Pent up frustrations, hurt, anger, and resentments can do no good for you or anyone. Festering issues build up creating scars on your soul, welts on our egos, and blisters on our hearts. 

When we do not release these inner most negative emotions they are stuck inside of us and they burrow in deeper and deeper. When this happens we find our walls growing ever more tall, our shells hardening, and our emotions cut off from those around us - especially those we need and deserve us most. 

Often times we go into grid lock, refusing to share our darker thoughts and feelings with others. We do not want to trouble them, we do not want to burden them, or we worry we will be viewed as a negative person, clingy, needy, insecure. Sometimes we find we have complained far too much in the past, or that people have shut down to us due to their own conflicts, or they have become tired of hearing us out. 

There is a difference between venting and being a victim. If you find people have shut down on you it is possible you are not venting but you are being a victim. 

A victim complains and does nothing to change their circumstances. Venting is done to release negative emotion and then one moves forward feeling a sense of relief and new found purpose. 

A victim often has the same issues that reappear over and over or never go away and are a constant fixture in their lives. Venting happens quickly and swiftly then the person picks themselves up and says “Okay so now this is my new plan”. 

First we must identify which person we are and make no mistake most of us have played both roles at some point in our lives! We are all capable of being a victim and are all capable of being the venter. Some of us just tend to play the victim more often and this is honestly irritating to people who try to help empower and do not want to sit around in even their own drama, let alone another’s. 

Note the warning signs. What happens to you mentally, emotionally, physically, when you are on the ledge ready to jump into a vent? Clenched teeth, tightened jaw, reduced or increased appetite, depression, anxiety, anger, raw nerves, scowl, sweating, narrowed or widened eyes, lethargy or increase energy, itchy skin, really there are so many signs and they are different for everyone but try, next time you are nearing that slippery slope to identify your own warning signals. 

One you decide if you are being a victim or simply venting ask yourself how to best use your venting process to optimize your forward movement. 

Determine the proper way to release the toxic energy within you. Some of us are vocal, while some of us prefer to write it all out, some of us do both, while others need to get out and do something physical. Determine your venting M.O. 

Do you need to call your best friend? Ask yourself if you have taxed this person already and if so you may be leaning more toward being a victim than a venter. Have you made any changes to yourself or in your own life since your last ranting or venting session with this person? Maybe its time to start a journal so you can look at your feelings from page to page, day by day or week by week to see if you are getting stuck in your issues or if you are truly working through them. Repeating issues tend to draw us over the line from venters to victims. It is far easier to see repeating patterns in a journal or blog than in the verbal format and much easier to continue the patterns if we have no resource and only the frustration of the friend we find ourselves continuously reaching out for. 

Make sure that your release of pent up frustrations and negativity is healthy. Over eating, drinking, gambling, gaming, or anything done in excess, even physical activity, sex included, can become an addiction and in that an unhealthy pattern. 

Once you are able to determine your patterns for releasing negative energy you can figure out if you are doing so in a healthy manner or not and this is where you can make positive changes. Try to find a balance in how you are venting, and be sure you are making progress away from the people, places, situations, and things that are causing you to feel the need to vent so often. 

Switch it up. It is best to use various methods of venting. If your M.O. is to call your friends, try blogging or journaling for a change. Blogging is a wonderful way to release pent up energy because your friends can subscribe to your blog and give their support when and if they want to. They should feel less pressure to lend a hand or sympathetic ear because they choose to visit your blog and leave comments or not. If your M.O. is to shut yourself up in your home alone watching reruns of That 70’s Show eating massive amounts of carmel popcorn then maybe this time get out of the house and take a walk in the park! Nature and being around youthful, hopeful energy can really be a positive healing source! Find a pond and go skip some stones or just barrel them right into the water! There are a million ways to release negativity from pounding a pillow to making chaotic messy art on a canvas! Try anything new and stop the patterns because patterns become habits and habits become addictions. 

Establish an order. Once you have identified your warning signs, and found many positive ways that work for you to release your negative energies, it is time to establish a healthy order of venting. 

Make a list of your top ten to top twenty healthiest and productive venting methods that you have discovered. List them from the easiest for you to access to most difficult. If you love to use your venting time by taking a walk around your favorite park but it is across town and difficult to get to then that would go lower on your list. You should still make efforts to use this item however easy access is necessary but on days when you really REALLY need that break away from it all before you simply explode - go to the bottom of your list as your best methods will usually be there! 

You may have noticed that the methods used for venting are similar if not often the same as those for meditation or relaxation. Bingo! One does not need a negative outlet to get the negative emotions out! Sometimes the most enlightened activities can lead to the most exhilarating expression of release! 

Granted, nothing beats hashing your emotions out with a friend, especially one who is supportive, empathic, and has been through some similar situations. We just want to be careful not to use this as our go-to method of release because we find, over time, we tax those friends with our own emotions leaving them little time for their own. This is when we get categorized as the victim rather than the venter. 

Here is my list I have developed for myself:

1. Listen to music.
2. Write in my own private journal.
3. Write a letter to the person or about the situation taxing my energy. (note: these “letters” are more for myself and not to be sent but a release only.)
4. Take a walk at a trail near by.
5. Go outside and throw knives. (I love this one, oh and I have a wooden target lol)
6. Nap in the daytime with my pets.
7. Watch some of my all time favorite movies.
8. Escape into a book.
9. Help someone else. (Sometimes being a support system to someone else allows us a reality check on our own dilemmas.) 
10. Clean the house. 

Last step! Go back to the source! After you have had your venting time go back to the beginning and figure out where things went wrong. What brought about the animosity, exhaustion, angst, anger, etc. What caused you to hit that wall where a break down was ensuing? Look at it from a clearer perspective and make a plan of action on how to break away from it and clean up the much left in its wake! Did someone pull you into their drama, were you embarrassed, did you trust someone you should not have, did you do someone wrong, were you irresponsible, have you been running in circles in a one way relationship, what happened? You see its not always the other person or a situation that was placed upon you. Some of our drama is very much self inflicted. We need to identify what the stressors were in the first place. Then take responsibility for those we created, and for those we did not we need to face them in a positive manner. 

Address yourself, address those who harmed you. We cannot expect closure on a situation that goes ignored or worse off - keeps repeating with no change! Sometimes closure is elusive or non existent depending on who we seek it from but we need to be willing to gain that closure before asking for it. All too often I am told that someone has not found their closure on a relationship for example. This is probably the most difficult of closures to find because most people do not have an honest view on what closure is or what it should be. Really when someone is stuck without closure it often is because they do not want to see the reality of the situation before them. If we want closure from another person we need to ask them WHY and then accept whatever answer they give. It is only in the case of absolutely no answer being given that we can truly and honestly say closure was not obtained. Just because we do not like the answer does not mean the other person did not offer you closure. This is one example of course. 

In this last step of the venting PROCESS, to come full circle we must face down our demons. That means dealing with the issue and making change! If it involves another person then set up a time to speak to that person directly IN person if possible. I realize we have friends and loved ones spread far and wide and an in person chat is not always possible and sometimes the other person will refuse to communicate with us. In those cases a letter is better than texting. Emails are better than texting. Nothing is more annoying than having a “serious” conversation with someone via text. Thoughts are not fluid and clear and there is too much room for misinterpretation and its just so NOT personal. If a topic is important one should take the time to clearly lay their thoughts out in an email at the very least but in person is always key so that you and the other person can see facial expressions, body language, hear vocal inflections and all things that make our communication meaningful. And in the best of circumstances end the communication with a friendly handshake or a wonderful embrace - whatever the outcome. We need not be enemies even if we no longer are to remain friends or lovers! Not all stress in our lives is about people or romance obviously. So whatever has caused you to get into the place of needing to vent, focus on it with clarity and find the resolution. There is always some form of resolution even though you can’t change others you can change the way you deal with others and the way you walk through your day to day life. 

With Love and Empowerment,

Azzrian 

Psychic Help for Your Love Life Feature

Thank you to Dating Web Sites for featuring my blog in your list of Psychic Blogs in your recent article Psychic Help for Your Love Life. I appreciate the honor of being selected from all of the wonderful blogs on the Internet!
I feel especially honored since I have been so severely lacking in blogging for some time.
It feels good to know that my articles have been of help to others and continue to do so.
It is also nice to know what type of articles seem to be reaching people. Since my blog is such a varied mix of spiritual, romance, dating, relationships, empowerment, herbs, magic, etc and so on LOL it feels good to know that even though scattered amongst many different topics there is something for everyone here.
I hope to continue to reach those who can use a little extra assistance!
Love,
Azzrian

Update on My Blog

Its been awhile. I want to let my readers know I am still out here. A lot of things have happened since my last post and many positive changes. Due to this I also have been limited in the amount of time I have to blog. 

My daughter had spinal surgery for her cerebral palsy and so far we have had wonderful results. The surgery has reduced her pain significantly improving her quality of life. She has a long way to go with daily physical therapy for at least six months and continued physical therapy thereafter but it is worth it. 

My son just had sinus surgery and is recovering very well. 

I of course have been helping them both through these processes. 

I am looking forward to blogging more in the coming weeks although I need to maintain my focus on the kids. 

I want to thank all of you who have been so supportive toward us during this time. 

I know often times many of us wonder if there is any good left in the world but I can tell you from my own experience there are still so many wonderful people out there willing to lend a hand, send their prayers, and listen when you are down. All you have to do is reach out. 

Thank you to all my loyal friends, clients, and blog followers! 

Love to each and every one of you and all those I hope to meet in the future! 

Azzrian 

A Romantic's Perspective

Hello Friends! 

Today I want to highlight a lovely lady I have come to know well. 

Poetess, Jaquee Thomas, Writer and Romantic, may just be one of the worlds few remaining true romantics! 

I know many of us through our years have dabbled in writing poetry, only to push it aside, perhaps ashamed of being so open, perhaps afraid of how we may be perceived.  You will discover through reading Jacquee’s book, she too struggled with such feelings. 

Perhaps you may wonder, what does it do for me to read someone else’s poetry? How can I relate? Trust me when I tell you that Jacquee’s words reach into one’s soul, sometimes quite deeply and usually quite unexpectedly! Jacquee’s imagery is vivid, sometimes alarming, always touching. 

I have found through discussion with others I have shared some of her writings with that the meanings transcend a collective translation, that the meaning to one may not be the same meaning to another, yet everyone whom I have shared Jacquee’s writings with agree on one thing... her words make us all feel something deeply. 

Now I do not often highlight someone’s work on my blog. I have a select few “affiliates” so when I do highlight someone here on my blog I do so with all good intentions that I feel they offer something my readers can relate to and that can even help my readers in some way. 

Most of you who have worked with me or are a client of mine know I am an advocate of journaling, blogging, getting your heart out on paper. There is something about the process of putting pen or pencil to paper, getting away from the technology that we have become spoiled by and accustomed to. There is something ritualistic and pure about jotting down notes, writing essays, poems, from the heart. Jacquee’s book flows so naturally and so unpretentiously that while reading it I felt she has done exactly what I ask of my friends and clients to do! 

I have a few favorite writings from Jaquee’s book but today I have selected one entry that I wish to share with you all: 

Soul Mates

We have met before and we meet in dreams.

We’ve called to each other before we met

In this life.

Whatever happened before

Is now haunting us

So we continue to meet in dreams

And keep our distance in this reality. 

We can’t help but toy with our already tortured souls.

To remain

In eternal dissatisfaction

For even meeting in dreams

Isn’t enough.

Authoress Jacquee Thomas 

from Growing Up

To learn more about Poetess Jacquee Thomas visit the links below and please “like” her on Facebook! 

Please "Like" on Facebook!

A Romantic's Perspective - Website

A Romantic's Perspective - Poetry Book

A Romantic's Perspective - Blog

Note: As some of you may know I have a special page up for my daughter, Emma, who will be having spinal surgery on September 30th. 

I have added a special incentive with a 10.00 donation which enters you in a drawing for one of Jacquee’s SIGNED books! One entry per 10.00 donation, so yes, you can enter more than once! However, if you are dying to have one of Jacquee’s book (and I sure would be) then use the other links above to purchase a copy now, otherwise use the link below to enter the drawing! Only one signed copy available! 

Emma's Fund Page - enter for a free signed copy!